Showing posts with label Positive Thinking. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positive Thinking. Show all posts
Thursday, June 25, 2009
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were u the one who changed my sign this morning? What did u write?"
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were u the one who changed my sign this morning? What did u write?"
The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what u said but in a different way."
What he had written was:
Today is a beautiful day & I cannot see it
Do u think the first sign & the second sign were saying the same thing? Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
Moral of the Story:
Be thankful for what you have.
Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.
Monday, June 15, 2009
Live for Others ...
My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?
I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter Sindu looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.
I cleared my throat, and picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear.
Sindu softened a bit, and wiped her tears with the back of her hands. "Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?'
'Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal. Now I became a bit anxious. 'Sindu dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?'
'No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity.
I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.
After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.
'Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.
'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!' 'Never in our family!' My mother rasped. 'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!'
'Sindu darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.'
'Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with her.
'Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'. Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'
It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.'
'Are you out of your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.
'No. If we go back on our promises, she will never learn to honor her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'
With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.
On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!' What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. 'May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.
'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued,' that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukemia.' She paused to muffle her sobs. Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy.. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. 'Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'
I stood transfixed and then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how self-less real love is!'
The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for others & inspire others.
My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?
I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter Sindu looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.
I cleared my throat, and picked up the bowl. 'Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear.
Sindu softened a bit, and wiped her tears with the back of her hands. "Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...' Sindu hesitated. 'Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?'
'Promise'. I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal. Now I became a bit anxious. 'Sindu dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?'
'No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive'. Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity.
I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.
After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.
'Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!' was her demand.
'Atrocious!' shouted my wife, 'A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!' 'Never in our family!' My mother rasped. 'She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!'
'Sindu darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.'
'Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?' I tried to plead with her.
'Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that Curd Rice'. Sindu was in tears. 'And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?'
It was time for me to call the shots. 'Our promise must be kept.'
'Are you out of your mind?' chorused my mother and wife.
'No. If we go back on our promises, she will never learn to honor her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.'
With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.
On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, 'Sinduja, please wait for me!' What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. 'May be, that is the in-stuff', I thought.
'Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!' Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued,' that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukemia.' She paused to muffle her sobs. Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy.. He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. 'Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.'
I stood transfixed and then, I wept. 'My little Angel, you are teaching me how self-less real love is!'
The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for others & inspire others.
Friday, May 15, 2009
How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?
Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?
Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he/she can get back her focus on what's important.
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab.
Here's what happened.
I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'
And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab.
Here's what happened.
I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!
The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.
My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'
And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'
Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.
You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did.
So this was it: The 'Law of the Garbage Truck.' I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.' I began to see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.
One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did this every day on the football field. He would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground after being tackled. He never dwelled on a hit. Payton was ready to make the next play his best.
Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Teachers and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.
The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day. What about you? What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?
Here's my bet.
You'll be happier.
So.. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance , TAKE IT! If it changes your life , LET IT! Nobody said it would be easy... They just promised it would be worth it!
Reference:David J. Pollay
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Motivation / demotivation is an inner feeling and it should come from within . Also it is always changing & dynamic.Today we are in a highly competetive environment. So always have a possitive attitude and do your best . Over a period of time , even your own boss herself will realise your potential and give the credit due for your good work.After that in your life you need not look back.Then Success will come to you always in all ways.
Change is everywhere.
Change, before it’s too late. No one likes change. But if we are not changing ourselves with the requirement and expectation of the environment / customer then we will be thrown out by our competitors. We should understand that the word ‘ Change ‘ alone remains the same forever all other things are changing. The world is going to change and also change drastically. Hence we have to get a plan, a programme together to deal with a decade that was totally different. If we adapt ourselves to change then we will be having always -new products, new business, new competitors, new market, new environment and new greater heights in our life style also. The only question facing all of us is what are we going to do in response to the changing environment? If we find a suitable answer to this question then we will be able to participate effectively and add value creation in our day- to- day work. Hence one should accept the following points with open mind to achieve peak through participation. Be open to change. Remember resisting change is easy. Make sure that our employees embrace change. Always be ready to face reality.
One’s goal should be to transform business into the best or to the near best in the world. To help one to get there the strategy to be adapted is always be ready to face reality. It may sound simple but getting any group of people to see the world the way it is and not the way they wish it were or hope it will be, is not as easy as it sounds. It needs lot of restructuring and which is equivalent to business process reengineering concept. The following points will help to reengineer our efforts and to face reality in our day- to -day working environment.
Face reality – those who avoid reality are doomed to failure. Having faced reality, act on the reality – adapt business strategies to that reality. By doing this there is a chance that one can turn his business around. One can be sure that if he sticks on to this there is no question that you will fail.
Create a vision and then get out of the way.
Business is very simple. People who try to make it complex get themselves all wound around. To keep business simple, a good manager has to ask himself five questions as part of the process of making clear, swift decisions, but they must be the right five questions. What does your global competitive environment look like?
1. In the past three years, what have your competitors done?
2. How might they attack you in the near future?
3. In the same time period what have you done to them?
4. What are your plans to leap frog them?
Managing and participating is allocating right people and right resources, give them what they need and then get out of the way. Managers must lead with vision and then scream it from the rooftops.
WINNERS NEVER QUIT & QUITTERS NEVER WIN.
All the Best
Monday, April 20, 2009
First, plant 3 rows of peas;
- Patience
- Promptness
- Prayer
Next, plant 3 rows of squash;
- Squash gossip
- Squash indifference
- Squash criticism
Then, plant 4 rows of lettuce;
- Let us Obey the Lord
- Let us be Loyal
- Let us be true to our Obligations
- Let us be unselfish
Finish, with 4 rows of turnip;
- Turn up when Needed
- Turn up with a Smile
- Turn up with a Vision
- Turn up with Determination
Thursday, April 9, 2009
To Be Happier Change Your Attitude With a Simple Word.
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What do you say when someone asks you, "How are you doing?" Let's say you are enjoying a spectacular day. The sun is shining. You found the perfect parking place under a shade tree after a hassle-free drive to work. Everyone compliments you on your great new outfit. Absolutely everything is going your way.
You probably reply with a cheery, "Terrific!"
But what if every little thing is going wrong today and you are in one foul mood. In fact, you could just about chew off the head of the person who asked how you are doing. What do you reply? I bet you say something like "Awful" (only you may use a stronger word with fewer letters). Or you may offer the generic reply, "Fine."
Remember that your subconscious mind obeys your every command. Whatever words fall out of your mouth become its orders to fulfill. So your Terrific will lead to more events leaving you in a terrific mood.
And the "Awful" will, in turn, lead you to more events that leave you feeling awful. That is how the Law works.
How can you improve your day in this very moment and brighten the rest of the hours today? Pretty simple solution--regardless of how you think you feel--reply to "How are you doing?" with "Great! Excellent!" Use a word that, simply because you utter it with feeling--your whole demeanor switches into this feeling of yes!
Don't think about it. Just do it. Do that for a whole day. I bet you will notice a difference in how your day goes.You discovered the quickest solution to be happier.
Reference:
Ali Bierman shows you how to be happier by changing the unknown belief systems that stop you cold.
You probably reply with a cheery, "Terrific!"
But what if every little thing is going wrong today and you are in one foul mood. In fact, you could just about chew off the head of the person who asked how you are doing. What do you reply? I bet you say something like "Awful" (only you may use a stronger word with fewer letters). Or you may offer the generic reply, "Fine."
Remember that your subconscious mind obeys your every command. Whatever words fall out of your mouth become its orders to fulfill. So your Terrific will lead to more events leaving you in a terrific mood.
And the "Awful" will, in turn, lead you to more events that leave you feeling awful. That is how the Law works.
How can you improve your day in this very moment and brighten the rest of the hours today? Pretty simple solution--regardless of how you think you feel--reply to "How are you doing?" with "Great! Excellent!" Use a word that, simply because you utter it with feeling--your whole demeanor switches into this feeling of yes!
Don't think about it. Just do it. Do that for a whole day. I bet you will notice a difference in how your day goes.You discovered the quickest solution to be happier.
Reference:
Ali Bierman shows you how to be happier by changing the unknown belief systems that stop you cold.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
1. Tell yourself a positive story. Life is a story. The story we tell ourselves and the role we play in that story determines the quality and direction of our life. The best real estate professionals are able to overcome adversity by telling themselves a more positive story than the rest. Instead of a drama or a horror movie, they define their life as an inspirational tale. Instead of being the victim, they see themselves as a fighter and overcomer. You may not be able to control market conditions, but you can influence the outcome of your story.
2. Model yourself after success.
2. Model yourself after success.
Are there real estate practitioners succeeding today? Of course there are. Seek out those people in your market and ask to meet with them. Learn from their advice and model their attitudes and actions. If they can succeed, so can you.
3. Focus on the important stuff.
3. Focus on the important stuff.
Tune out the negative voices and start making positive choices. What are you doing on a daily basis to grow yourself, your team, and your business? Don’t focus on the negative things other salespeople and the media are saying. Instead, focus on marketing your business, taking care of clients, and building loyal relationships. Every morning ask yourself this question: "What are the three most important things I need to do today that will help me create the success I desire?" Then take action on those items.
4. Replace "have to" with "get to."
4. Replace "have to" with "get to."
This simple word swap can change your mind-set and your approach to work and life. It turns a complaining voice to an appreciative voice, and acknowledges that life is a gift—not an obligation. So often we grudgingly say things like "I have to go to this meeting," "I have to meet with this client," or "I have to sell houses in this market." In reality, it’s not about what we have to do. It’s about what we get to do. Research shows that when we practice gratitude, we get a measurable boost in happiness that energizes us and enhances our health. It’s also physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time.
5. Refuse to participate in the recession.
5. Refuse to participate in the recession.
Professionals who’ve thrived during past recessions continued to go about business as usual regardless of market conditions. They worked hard and focused on taking actions to grow their business. As others are paralyzed by fear, take the opportunity to charge forward.
6. Boost your marketing and advertising.
6. Boost your marketing and advertising.
It may seem counterintuitive to spend more money on advertising and marketing right now. But with so many of your competitors cutting back in these areas, this is a great opportunity to build your brand and gain market share. People are still buying and selling, and they will buy from those whom they trust and see in the marketplace.
7. Create a positive vision.
7. Create a positive vision.
Instead of being disappointed about where you are, make the decision to be optimistic about where you are going. Create a positive vision for your future and the future of your team. Vision helps you see the road ahead and it gives you something meaningful and valuable to strive towards.
8. Invite others on your bus.
8. Invite others on your bus.
Invite colleagues and customers to board your bus for a positive ride. Send them an e-bus ticket at www.TheEnergyBus.com. Share your vision with team members and ask them to join you in making this vision a reality. Be a positive influence.
9. No more complaining.
9. No more complaining.
Abide by the "no complaining" rule. When you realize you’re about to complain, replace your thoughts and words with positive actions. Let your complaints help you identify what you don’t want so that you can focus on what you do want. The key is to turn complaints into solutions.
Monday, March 30, 2009
Self-appraisal
A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. He climbed onto the carton so that he could reach the buttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in seven digits.
The store-owner observed and listened to the conversation: The boy asked, "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn? The woman replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn."
"Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now." replied boy. The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was presently cutting her lawn.
The little boy found more perseverance and offered, "Lady, I'll even sweep your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach, Florida." Again the woman answered in the negative.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver. The store-owner, who was listening to all, walked over to the boy and said, "Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would like to offer you a job."
The little boy replied, "No thanks, I was just checking my performance with the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that lady, I was talking to!"
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Imagine you’re in Airport. While you’re waiting for your flight, you notice a shop selling cookies. You buy a box, put them in your traveling bag and then you patiently search for an available seat so you can sit down and enjoy your cookies.
Finally you find a seat next to a gentleman. You reach down into your traveling bag and pull out your box of cookies. As you do so, you notice that the gentleman starts watching you deeply. He stares as you open the box and his eyes follow your hand as you pick up the cookie and bring it to your mouth.
Just then he reaches over and takes one of your cookies from the box, and eats it! You’re more than a little surprised at this. Actually, you’re at a loss for words. Not only does he take one cookie, but he alternates with you. For every one cookie you take, he takes one.
Now, what’s your immediate impression of this guy? Crazy? Greedy? He’s got some nerve?! Can you imagine the words you might use to describe this man to your associates back at the office?
Meanwhile, you both continue eating the cookies until there’s just one left. To your surprise, the man reaches over and takes it. But then he does something unexpected. He breaks it in half, and gives half to you. After he’s finished with his half he gets up, and without a word, he leaves.
You think to yourself, "Do this really happen?" You’re left sitting there surprised and still hungry. So you go back to the shop and buy another box of cookies.
You then return to your seat and begin opening your new box of cookies when you glance down into your traveling bag. Sitting there in your bag is your original box of cookies -- still unopened.
Only then do you realize that when you reached down earlier, you had reached into the other man’s bag, and grabbed his box of cookies by mistake.
Now what do you think of the man? Kind? Understanding?
You've just experienced a profound paradigm shift. You’re seeing things from a new point of view.
Is it time to change your point of view?
Now, think of this story as it relates to your business. Perhaps you've been doing something the same way for years, but never stopped to think about how it could be done better. A little bit of research and brainstorming may make you see what you’re currently doing in a whole new way. It will help you to come out of the today’s messy situation of economic gloom.
Seeing things from a new point of view can be very helpful. Possibly, you've been annoyed at one particular client who may have complained about some aspect of your service, but when you actually take the time to understand his frustration and his point of view, you may suddenly experience an entirely different perspective.
After all, he may have just helped you to avoid problems with future customers.
Think outside the box. Be open to suggestions. Be open to changing your point of view. Things may not be what they seem.
This is the time to take action on mistake which we have done and work on that to overcome over the current situation.
Thursday, January 15, 2009
1) LOVE CHANGE :
You can love and embrace change or hate and reject change. Change is the only constant happening.
Water is more powerful than rock. Water flows and adapts to its surroundings while retaining its power. Given enough friction, solid rock can turn into a sand pile.
To choke back your resistance to change.
Water is more powerful than rock. Water flows and adapts to its surroundings while retaining its power. Given enough friction, solid rock can turn into a sand pile.
To choke back your resistance to change.
- Adjust your attitude. Be flexible. Focus on solutions
- Learn continuously. You'll keep your brain sharp and stay ahead of the curve.
- Pay attention to trends. Spot them first and adjust your plan before you're forced to
- Nurture support systems. Change is smoothed with a little help from your friends
Tip - If you're experiencing change in one area of your life, reduce changes in other areas of your life. Don't change jobs, mates, locations at the same time. Routines are your friends when you're in the midst of change.
2) TAKE RISK:
Life is all about taking risks. And you willingly take chances every day. Whether you drive, take public transportation, or walk to work, you are risking getting into an accident. But you go ahead and do it anyway. What separates achievers from ordinary folks is their willingness to take optional as well as necessary risks.
3) MAKE MISTAKES:
Just think of what you can learn from your mistakes. What steps did you take to make the mistake and how do you avoid repeating the same mistake in the future. If you think about it, that's what you do when you learn something new. You take some action or perform a technique. You get a result.
- If it's the result you want, you make sure that you do it that way every time .
- If it isn't the result you want, then you stop, figure out what you did that wasn't quite right, adjust and try again.
- When you make a mistake, go with it. Admit you blew it, look to see why, take action to fix it, learn and move on. Don't be afraid of making mistakes!
4) LEARN SOMETHING NEW EVERY DAY:
Most of us have one or two areas of knowledge that we strive to know very well — things related to our jobs, of course, and maybe a hobby or two. While it's important to develop a deep understanding of the things that matter most to us, it is just as important to develop a broad understanding of the world in general. There is, after all, a reason the term "well-read" is a compliment.
5) SET GOALS:
The process of setting goals helps you choose where you want to go in life. By knowing precisely what you want to achieve, you know where you have to concentrate your efforts. You'll also quickly spot the distractions that would otherwise lure you from your course. Properly-set goals can be incredibly motivating, and as you get into the habit of setting and achieving goals, you'll find that your self-confidence builds fast.
6) ASK FOR CRITICISM: Asking for criticism will help you understand the areas that you need to work on to improve yourself. A few pointers on how to deal with criticism:
- Accept that you are not perfect. Double check your work
- Listen carefully. Don't take it personally
- Don't hold a grudge. Clear the air.
Use the six keys and remember the people that are there to help you!
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
If you compare, you are insulting yourself.
No one will manufacture a lock without a key.
Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.
Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...
Life smiles at you when you are happy...
Life salutes you when you make others happy...
Every successful person has a painful story...Every painful story has a successful ending
Accept the pain and get ready for success..
Easy is to judge the mistakes of others....Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes
It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.
No one can go back and change a bad beginning; But anyone can start now and create a successful ending..
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it..If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears...It will hide another better opportunity in front of you
"Changing the Face" can change nothing. But "Facing the Change" can change everything.
Don't complain about others; Change yourself if you want peace.
Mistakes are painful when they happen. But year's later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.
Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win. Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win.
Heated gold becomes ornament. Beaten copper becomes wires. Depleted stone becomes statue. So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.
No one will manufacture a lock without a key.
Similarly God won't give problems without solutions.
Life laughs at you when you are unhappy...
Life smiles at you when you are happy...
Life salutes you when you make others happy...
Every successful person has a painful story...Every painful story has a successful ending
Accept the pain and get ready for success..
Easy is to judge the mistakes of others....Difficult is to recognize our own mistakes
It is easier to protect your feet with slippers than to cover the earth with carpet.
No one can go back and change a bad beginning; But anyone can start now and create a successful ending..
If a problem can be solved, no need to worry about it..If a problem cannot be solved what is the use of worrying?
If you miss an opportunity don't fill the eyes with tears...It will hide another better opportunity in front of you
"Changing the Face" can change nothing. But "Facing the Change" can change everything.
Don't complain about others; Change yourself if you want peace.
Mistakes are painful when they happen. But year's later collection of mistakes is called experience, which leads to success.
Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win. Be bold when you loose and be calm when you win.
Heated gold becomes ornament. Beaten copper becomes wires. Depleted stone becomes statue. So the more pain you get in life you become more valuable.
Friday, October 10, 2008
Is there anyone around who makes you feel deserted and drained..?
Beware! That’s an Energy Vampire...
Some people bring unexpected lightness and comfort to your life. They crackle with energy, practically electrify you with their presence. And then there are those who leave you feeling stressed out. Or guilty. Or exhausted down to your very last molecule. I call them Energy Vampires. Obnoxious or meek, they come in all forms, can come from any side.
How Energy Vampires Drain Your Positive Energy
Energy vampires drain positive energy in many ways, such as:
- Intruding on your life, ignoring boundaries and privacy (energy vampires don't think of you).
- Making big deals out of nothing. Energy vampires are often called "drama queens" because they can easily turn a broken nail into a Shakespearean tragedy. Negative energy spreads from everyday events.
- Complaining constantly about their partners, jobs, children, bad luck, and illnesses. Energy vampires like to vent.
- Criticizing your hair, appearance, job, children, partner, friends, and pets (energy vampires aren't positive).
- Not taking "no" for an answer. Energy vampires don't consider your needs at all.
- Being unrelentingly negative. Their negative energy is unrelentless, and energy vampires drain your positive energy by encouraging you to be negative, too.
- Blaming everyone else for their problems (energy vampires don't take responsibility).
Energy vampires drain energy: you feel depressed after a conversation
You know you've spent time with an energy vampire when you leave feeling depressed, exhausted, or sad. Energy vampires drain your positive energy for their own use. Energy vampires leave you feeling empty and sluggish -- and to compensate or build positive energy you may eat, drink, shop, or sleep for hours afterwards.
Energy vampires have energy leaks: they need your positive energy
Energy vampires come in all shapes and sizes: loud and aggressive, soft-spoken and shy, charming and seductive, pushy and overbearing. Energy vampires have energy leaks that they need to fill. It's up to you to stop energy vampires from draining your positive energy. Often energy vampires don't even realize they're bleeding you dry. Energy vampires have often suffered some sort of crisis, whether in childhood or adulthood, and they're compensating to get rid of their negative energy. Energy vampires may not be deliberately, maliciously stealing your positive energy -- but they're definitely not contributing to a fantastic relationship.
They drain positive energy, but you can learn to stop energy vampires.
11 ways to stop energy vampires:
1. Limit the amount of time you spend with energy vampires. The less time you're together, the less positive energy you'll lose.
2. Learn effective ways to end conversations with energy vampires (e.g., “I only have ten minutes to talk.”)
3. Stay calm and detached from energy vampires. Don't let their negative energy consume you.
4. Be honest about your needs (e.g., “I need this time to work/read/relax/exercise.”)
5. Refrain from attempting to rescue them or fix an energy vampire's problems.
6. Practice walking away from energy vampires; the more you do it, the easier it gets.
7. Limit eye contact with energy vampires.
8. Avoid being in close spaces with energy vampires (elevators, cars, close chambers, etc). Negative energy is catching.
9. Define and guard your personal space from energy vampires.
10. Tell energy vampires you feel uncomfortable discussing particular people or circumstances.
11. Stand up for yourself and your boundaries! Your time, positive energy, and resources are precious and should be closely guarded from energy vampires.
No matter which type of energy vampire you're dealing with, you're allowed to walk away. Many of us find this really hard to do. We're afraid of being thought of as impolite; we don't want to offend people. But there are plenty of ways to remove yourself from a killing conversation. When leaving isn't an option, you can still maintain your energy level by making a few minor adjustments.
Recognize the Signs
One of the first things to do is to recognize when you're being drained, and that begins with tuning in to your physical reactions. Is there a tightening in your chest when a certain person enters the conversation? Do you feel tired when you hang up the phone after speaking with someone? Does your head ache, or do you feel what I call "slimed" when another guest at a cocktail party starts talking to you?
Take a Deep Breath
The moment you feel zapped -- or hemmed in, or stressed out -- I recommend taking a breath. Breathing is a wonderful way to center yourself. Just follow the breath and tell yourself that you know what's happening and you can deal with it. It's important to remember our individual power. I know from research that we can lose it easily. The minute somebody comes in who is bossy or blaming, we feel diminished and tensed up. If we can focus on the breath, or on an image of a striking sunset or a view from a mountain top, the tension will drift away.
Use Your Energy
You can also use some of your own subtle energy to counter the effects of an energy vampire. Visualize a protective white light around you: an energy shield. You can still hear the person who's yelling at you or blaming you or pushing himself into your sphere, but he won't cut into you so viscerally anymore. You've created a buffer zone, where his negative influences can dissipate.
Set Boundaries
Setting boundaries is another way of protecting yourself; you draw a line saying, for instance, "This is what I can do for you, and this is what I can't." You don't have to convince the vampire of the rightness of your stance. Getting defensive simply adds to the negative charge of the encounter. You want to remain neutral. When someone starts pushing your buttons, and you start sizzling inside, you've got to make the decision not to react.
Step Back
I also suggest you step back and think about what type of people aggravate you, because I believe that one law of energy is that we attract what we haven't yet worked out in ourselves. If I'm a very angry person, I'll find myself surrounded by angry people. By paying attention to the people who seem so draining, you might discover something you need to address. It has been my experience that once you've worked through a particular issue, you're no longer worn out by that kind of energy vampire. And the vampires, robbed of a source, move on to more easily drainable audiences.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Hell and Heaven.
A good man after his death was given a choice to reside in Hell or Heaven.. He requested for a permission to visit both before deciding. He first went to hell .
A good man after his death was given a choice to reside in Hell or Heaven.. He requested for a permission to visit both before deciding. He first went to hell .
Contrary to his expectation, hell looked to be a rich place. He went to the lunch room and he saw the delicious dishes being served.
However he was surprised to see that the residents looked famished and ill and were not eating. He realized that they had no elbow joints so could not bend their arms and feed. So all they could do is to look at the food and fight
He quickly wanted to visit heaven. When he entered heaven he found out residents having similar deformity - no elbow joint. He was shocked , expecting that they will also face the same predicament as the hell’s residence
But to his pleasant surprise they were happy joking and looked well fed . He moved to the dinner room and then he saw the most beautiful sight. The residents as they could not bend their hands were feeding each other with the straightened arms.
MUTUAL HELP
Why we cannot follow the doctrine of mutual help in our own life?
Why are we always selfish in our behaviour?
Are we sensitive to other’s needs?
We always think of I, me , myself ……?
Live in the Present
Once a clock master was repairing a clock.
The pendulum requested the clock master to be relieved of it’s duty of ticking. It said “ I am exhausted ticking every second, 60 times a minutes 3600 times an hour , 86400 times every day and 31536000 times in an year. I cannot do more, I can't continue….”
The click master replied “do not think for the future just tick one second a day and you will enjoy it to the rest of your life.”
The pendulum decided to follow the advice and is still ticking happily.
The present moment is never unbearable if we live it fully.
We most of the time swing from past to present to future and are always unhappy.
What holds us living in present ??
How to see , feel here, now…?
Think about the present , live the current moment, current hour , current day, current week….?
God Help
A disciple visited the saint and left his horse untied outside. He bowed to the saint saying that he has full faith in God and have left his horse untied with the belief that God will protect his interest.
The saint replied , “go tie your horse you fool. God will not bother to do such thing which you are perfectly capable of doing.”
Be Accountable of your Actions
Do not depend on God what you can do on your own.
We blame our destiny, external circumstances to cover up our lack of efforts
We should be accountable for our actions.
Sunday, August 24, 2008
STOP Negative Thoughts
"What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?"
Negative thinking can make all sorts of things incredibly difficult. It is like a leak in our confidence bucket - constantly drip-drip-dripping away our confidence and self esteem. However, once you begin thinking about what you're "thinking about", you've already taken the first step to controlling negative thoughts. Next time you catch yourself repeating the same negative thoughts over and over in your mind, use the STOP acronym:
"What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?"
Negative thinking can make all sorts of things incredibly difficult. It is like a leak in our confidence bucket - constantly drip-drip-dripping away our confidence and self esteem. However, once you begin thinking about what you're "thinking about", you've already taken the first step to controlling negative thoughts. Next time you catch yourself repeating the same negative thoughts over and over in your mind, use the STOP acronym:
1. S - Say the word STOP!!!
Interrupt your internal destructive thoughts. Tell yourself firmly to "STOP" over thinking. Be strict, and don't let them intrude on your thoughts. It also might be helpful to visualize a box to place all your negative thoughts in, which you may open at a later date or time.
2. T - TAKE a break!
Take a deep breath. Then, take a break. Go for a walk or a hike, read a great book, listen to your favorite music. Do something to take your attention away from over thinking, and if possible, change the environment. Also try some relaxation exercises, they often focus on replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
3. O - Focus on the OUTCOME!!!
Focus on the OUTCOME of your goals. Affirm why you are committed to your goals. The way we feel and what we experience in our body comes from what we focus our attention upon during a given moment. And at any moment, we are "deleting" most of what is going on around us. That is, to feel bad, we have to delete (not focus on, not think about) everything that's great in our life. And vice versa. For us to feel good, we have to delete the things we could feel bad about
4. P - PRAISE yourself!
PRAISE and acknowledge yourself for the progress you are making. Remember, you're looking for progress, not perfection! Give yourself a reward every time you're successful with overcoming negative thoughts. And remember small changes make a big difference.
By recognizing that you do have negative thoughts you've taken the first step. Now, start playing Devil's Advocate and challenge yourself to find the positive. Turn your thoughts around and your moods will follow suit.
And remember, You Are What You Think!!!
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