Tuesday, January 5, 2010

By Sally Wright

Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other, and the magic seems to falter. Your relationship starts to suffer a bit and you believe both of you are not on the same page any longer. You think the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you do not sure how to bridge the gap between you and your partner. To reconstruct the intimacy you both want and need.

If you believe the relationship is worth another chance and worth the time and effort to get it to grow, there are a few things you will be able to do in order to mend the wounds and move ahead jointly as a strong couple. Let's explore these steps together.

Talk things out with one another. Always let the other person know what your feelings are, what you desire out of life and things you would like to accomplish. Remember that your partner cannot read your mind and will need you to tell them what you want out of life. If they don't know, how are they going to give you what you require in a sound relationship ?

Be open and honest. Do not waste time and effort straining to play mind games with your mate. You cannot expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, "I'm fine", it actually signifies you are fuming inside. The longer you take to get the honest truth to out, the longer it will be before you are in a sincerely and joyful relationship.

Trust each other. Trust is what makes a relationship mature into a healthy one and permits intimacy to come into play. If the relationship has no trust, then the relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true intimacy from forming and becoming a part of your life.

Spend as much time together as a couple as possible without your family and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other, essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and dislikes are.

When you believe you know your partner well enough, closeness will follow a lot easier when other people are not trying to get in your way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for 15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like; people change over time and so do their preferences.

Go on a romantic holiday together. Pick a place that you will be able to have some fun together while getting to know your partner a bit more. A trip can help eliminate strain in a relationship and lets you act more like yourself with your partner.

You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not been on a trip together in the last 6 years.

Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity, then you ought to be willing to do something with them that you are not interested in. Give and take is a fabulous way to build intimacy in your relationship.

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