Sunday, December 6, 2009

By Gary Deros

"How to get boyfriend back" is a question that many people ask themselves shortly after a breakup. You might want him to come back to you at once. That is a common feeling that many people experience. But, it might not be the best strategy for keeping you boyfriend for the long term.

Here are 3 steps that will help you get my ex back.

3 - Have You Accepted the Break Up?

First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex will need time to think about the relationship, and this will give you time as well to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.

Following a breakup it is easy to slip into a depression. You will probably find yourself wondering what you need to do. You might feel like immediately contacting you ex boyfriend and begging. Begging him to come back to you. But this can backfire on you. Other than making things better, it is probably going to make the situation worse. It may chase your ex boyfriend even further away.

2- Are you pestering your ex boyfriend?

Do not make an effort to contact your ex anymore right now. You should cut communication off with him so that there can be some "thinking time". This may seem counter-intuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and can calm your nerves, that may be the best time to let them realize how important you were to them.

1- Are you planning for the get together?

After completing the above two steps, you can start working on you plan. You need to plan when you should meet, where you should meet, and what you are going to say when you meet with your ex boyfriend again. This will let you get a better idea of whether or not he still loves you. It will allow you time to figure out if you and your ex will be able to get back together.

"How to get boyfriend back?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back.

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2 Comments:

  1. Beckey said...
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    Beckey said...
    Thanks for sharing the information.

    I was thinking about how to get my ex boyfriend back. It's really helpful.

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