Saturday, November 21, 2009

By Richard Rees-Jones

At the end of your first date, unavoidably you will have to deal with the question of kissing. You don't have to kiss if you don't want to, nevertheless your partner may want to, and you will have to deal with that. There are simple kisses with no deeper meanings, other kisses can be serious and can be quite exciting. Kissing is one of the most intimate acts, and by doing this, you show your trust: your eyes are closed, and you expose one of the most vulnerable parts of your body: your neck.

Lot of people see kissing as a foreplay to sex: some people will kiss only if they are willing to go all the way. Others see kissing as an activity that has nothing to do with the sexual intercourse: after a long and sensual kiss, they will turn around and leave. Therefore it is good to know what the difference is between a quick kiss and a serious kiss.

Kissing is not the only way to say goodbye: you can shake hands, which means you don't want to move too fast. This gesture, however, can be easily misinterpreted, and your date may think something went wrong, or you are dismissive. You can also hug your date. Hugging is very similar to kissing, as it can have a lot of meanings depending on the duration and body position. Its message can range from friendly and casual to passionate. Hugging can be also the gateway to kissing.

Scientists studying kisses know about 25 different kinds of kisses, each having its own message. You are not a scientist and your date neither, so you don't have to know each way of kissing. There is no doubt you can kiss without having specialized studies in the field. However, there is an important difference between a serious kiss and quick kiss.

If you meet someone and kiss him/her on the cheek, that's a quick kiss. Quick kisses are quite common in some countries. If your date gives you a quick kiss at the end of the night it means he/she doesn't want to get involved in anything serious. Therefore you should say goodbye and go home. If your date gives you a kiss on your cheek when you meet, be prepared for more to come.

If you feel a lot of tension in the air, you will know a serious kiss is on the way. Your body language also shows this. A serious kiss is always a luscious, full-body experience, but not all serious kisses lead to the bed.

Men see serious kissing as the prelude to sex. However, a lot of women don't think about serious kissing that it has to end in the bed. They can kiss for quite long time, and then just go away, leaving the disappointed men behind.

If you want to know if there is a kiss coming or not, there are certain signs to look for: you are facing each other, with no intention to suddenly end the date, looking into each other's eyes.

But remember, kissing is not mandatory. There are other ways to say goodbye, like shaking hands, hugging or even waving at each other.

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